Learning to Love by Galina Singer

Learning to Love by Galina Singer

Weekly Love Notes

Wanting To Run Away From Your Partner?

That's what's keeping you stuck.

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Galina Singer
Jul 09, 2025
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I was coming back to my New York place after running errands one afternoon last week, when I registered acute thirst.

I was almost home and did not want to buy another plastic bottle.

For the next few blocks, while I was walking, I noticed my thoughts fixate on how and what I was going to drink as soon as I got home.

The mind became obsessive, my visions vivid and detailed: it’s like I was already in the future.

I saw myself opening the freezer, squeezing ice cubes into a tall glass, pouring the cool clear water…

The observer in me caught me in the process of escaping my reality.

The experience of thirst on a hot humid day was so uncomfortable, so urgent, it became overwhelming for my nervous system.

The mind did what it does so well — dissociated me from the rest of my body by leaving the present moment, bypassing the actual experience, and trying to find refuge in a fantasy instead.

Catching myself in this process intrigued me.

I was very aware of how quick and automatic it was.

I had enough …

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