Learning to Love by Galina Singer

Learning to Love by Galina Singer

Safe To Be Me

Why Having Everything Still Left Me Empty

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Galina Singer
Sep 02, 2025
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I had everything — a life most would envy — yet nothing ever felt like enough.

I was living in a beautiful place, had homes on several continents, was married to a loving loyal partner, had 3 blessings of children, an enviable CV with multiple university diplomas and prestigious job titles.

Yet, I realized that none of the external accoutrements could alleviate the bottomless sense of inadequacy, not belonging, and the shame of being me.

The un-faced darkness within would gobble up all the blessings, keeping me starved among all the abundance. Nothing ever felt like enough, because I was unable to connect to the gratitude for all that I had.

So life took some stuff away and threatened to take away others. And I was forced to discern what is truly valuable and what is not:

— Possessions are not valuable.

— Human life is.

Now I’m in the best place of my life.

Once all the masks and identities were ripped off and I went deeply into the shame and the pain that filled me — I became invincible. I b…

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